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Author Topic: maybe it’s just me?

December 31, 2018, 06:34:49 AM
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cheyxie


hi, just a little bit of background info, im dating my boyfriend for 8 months now and we overcome the small things.

we communicate well, we love each other, we laugh, we spend time, etc.

however, one thing that has bothered me is i sometimes dont feel the love, at times i catch myself saying “i love you” to him at random times often or even “i miss you” because i want to let him know & because i feel it in that moment. i know he does show me that he loves me with with actions but sometimes i feel lowkey sad that he doesn’t express it thru wordz

we have discussed it before and he has told me it’s probably because of his ex since they dated in the past & he told me he would tell her how much he loved her alot randomly, but when he found out she cheated on him, he didnt express himselfas much now, he has told me he might express himself if i give him time, but i am not sure what to do.

i feel sad sometimes but even though he shows me thru actions he loves me, it still feels like i am not loved thru words, am i overreacting or is this just me?

btw idk if zodiac will help but he is libra and i am cancer.
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December 31, 2018, 09:56:21 AM
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Rathiel


It's natural to feel a little bit down when a person you love doesn't seem to return your verbal affectations. You might be the sort of person who prefers that sort of affection.

Your boyfriend's had a bit of trauma given his past relationship, and for most part, guys are less likely to be emotive. But don't be discouraged. Be a little patient with him and maybe he'll regain enough trust to start being more open to you. You could open up about it to him if it bothers you too much. It's possible for you both to come to a compromise.

Maybe he'll be more comfortable to replying to your 'I love yous' with something indirect to keep him from remembering the events he associates with the phrase. This is especially true if you're the one initiating. Maybe he might use phrases like 'Me too.' or the like.

January 03, 2019, 04:18:26 AM
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Esthrala


I guess he is a little traumatized by his past relationship. He might be afraid to fully invest himself in your relationship because he still sees the possibility of you falling apart. If you feel that he really loves you despite of lack of verbal expressions, then don't think of it that much. Just take care of your relationship. Sooner or later (hopefully sooner), he'll loosen up. Just be a little more patient with him. Good luck.
Esthrala🤓