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August 12, 2019, 04:28:56 PM
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fizzy


i have been in an on and off relationship with a guy i love for 4 years.he always tells me he loves me but once some new chick walks by he decides to leave me but always comes back when he claims to miss me.i really love him and i know he feels the same about me but i am tired of crying over him :'( :'(

August 12, 2019, 05:52:19 PM
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Cornel


Leave him.

Trust me just leave him.

You will always have doubts, you will always wonder when he is going to leave you again, you will always be worried.

Its hard now I know. But tell him he messed around too much and that you can't continue anymore. Download Tinder and go for gold (Not Tinder Gold, just you start dating) - or better yet do a month of self love where you focus on yourself. Excercise, eat healthy, go out with friends. Get away from the doubt suspicion and anxiety.

August 15, 2019, 10:53:30 AM
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Brianstone


Sounds like it will never end well and you will always be left wondering what the future will bring in a negative way. I would cut off the relationship

August 20, 2019, 07:24:17 AM
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karina48


I don't want to say this, but if you are not appreciated in a relationship, it is unlikely that this will change. You deserve mutual love. :)

September 04, 2019, 11:17:41 AM
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Somegirl246


Hello
It doesn’t sound like he respects you enough to stay committed long term.
If this keeps happening you shouldnt stay in a situation that makes you feel this way. You always deserve better than that.

December 24, 2019, 06:57:07 PM
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Better off Single


Love is supposed to heal you and set you free, not to cage you and limit your opportunities. That’s why being single is better than being a part of an almost relationship. You deserve to be with someone who will love you unconditionally and will be there for you no matter what. Who adores everything about you and thinks a pretty girl is just a pretty girl and lets her walk by because he is happy being with you and there is no one he would rather be with.

Picture this. You have sent a long message to him explaining how you feel about your relationship, and all he did was leave your message on ‘seen’. This makes you feel so worthless and unappreciated. Doesn't it? That's how this guy is treating you. Like you aren't good enough but enough to massage his ego and he will reply when he gets around to it. While you sit by your phone waiting in vain to hear words you will probably never ever going to hear from him.  You're basically telling him it is okay to treat you like dirt to make himself feel better.

Stop sacrificing your peace to a guy who gives no fucks about your mental health.

December 25, 2019, 07:54:28 AM
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4lila4


that sounds really exhausting and hurtful. Even though you love him i’d advise to break up with him and let him go. you will just get hurt even more.

January 03, 2020, 01:34:34 AM
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mje97


It's time to pack up and move on. Think about, is it really worth the tears? I know this may seem hard to do but follow what your heart and intuition is telling you.

January 08, 2020, 08:26:44 AM
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NarutoYi


Everyone is saying to leave but wait a second.
I am telling you not to rush so we can think through some things,and I bet you really love him so much.
So you both love each other and that is amazing.The problem is him.

Ok let’s think now why is he leaving for others, why is he doing that?
I think you should talk to him about this.Ask him why.
There can be two main things:
1.If he wants you to be his wife and still to go with other girls that is not ok.Tell him that is unacceptable and if that is the case than you should leave.
2.He loves you and he want to be only with you for the rest of his life but he can’t resist other girls.
Well in this case you should talk it out and find solutions to this problem if you want him to shift all his love and focus only in to you.Maybe he really wants to be like that (to have eyes and love only for you) but his subconcsious mind wants other girls and he is not calm.
So what can you do here?How to calm that subconcsious?
Well first tell him to start a NoFap journey so his brain can calm and heal from all the sexual addictions and fantasies.You can find a lot of videos about this on youtube.Quiting porn is essential then he should quit masturbation over other girls and fantasising about them. Remember these are not always things he has choosen to have in his life they can be addictions.To overocome that sexual addiction he must be concsiously and fully commited.That can be a very hard time with some relapses but with hard work and not giving up he can really heal and change.So please be sure that he is commited for real.

You should also be taking care of yourself.Never let yourself behind but work on improving yourself and your mental and physical health.

During this journey spend time together and have a good time while not having lots of fights and arguments and lies and other distresses.Remember you both should be doing well during healing.If you find it hard to have a relaxing and good time with each other because of fighting please sort that out before anything.Relationship problems can inhibit the proces of healing.It is always good thing to ask for help by psychologists or couple counselours.
Hard times can come but don’t give up keep on fighting and you will achieve your target.

When he is purified you can see that your bond will get stronger than ever.He will not be interesed in any other sexual thing besides you.You will be both commited to each other and none else if you truly love each other.

This was my advice on how things can turn good with your boy if you don’t want to leave.Trust me it works if he is really commited and wants that.Things for sure will get better.

But if he doesn’t wanna commit to it or sabotages the commitment quickly and continuously or lies about it or doesn’t wanna go through those things for the sake of love and he just wants to keep on doing what he is doing than you will have to leave.

I really wish you the best and good luck in everything in your life.

January 15, 2020, 07:03:29 AM
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bluemeanybeany


Talk to him; but know what you want before you go in. Say when you do x, it makes me feel y. Make him understand the effect his behaviour is having on you.

Then give him terms say: if we give it another go, and you leave me again... I will not let you back in next time. Stick to this boundary. Know your worth. If he keeps lying and messing you around, then you have to leave him and not come back. Even if you love him, you don't and can't trust him.

January 15, 2020, 03:01:49 PM
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Linda1988


Maybe it’s too easy for him to come back. If the man does something that is not okay.. for me leaving is a huge no :/ He needs to try a lot to get you back.
Maybe he is too little, maybe he is not certain about his feelings. Once he decided to leave, he needs to try hard to come back - showing that he really needs you and has changed. After he is in your life again he must now it was the last time he left. The next one means there is no way back.
Other than that- everyone deserves a person who wants to be with you always and doesn’t have a doubt about that. If it makes you sad, why to keep it?

January 22, 2020, 12:53:22 AM
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ajisha


Leave him. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
I know it sucks but I have found it to always be true.

January 24, 2020, 09:25:44 AM
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Danielgr


If there is no trust in a relationship it's one of first Signes that's you are close to breakup

 

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