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June 10, 2019, 11:50:07 AM
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sadlilboys


hi... about a week ago i had asked my crush if he wanted to be friends during school hours. he agreed to. i asked him if he wanted to hang out (a friendly hangout to get to know each other) and he also agreed. he had given me his social media account to contact him. i decided to request his account and send him a friendly message indicating it was me, the girl who talked to him earlier.


its been a week and he hasn’t accepted my request yet nor has he read the direct message. here’s the catch, he has accepted 3 new followers in the last week, is he ignoring me? to add, most of the girls who follow his account don’t even talk to him in real life.


i see him around school at least once a day for an hour as i have a total of 3 classes with him. i’ve caught him staring at me a couple of times and he fidgets a little too.


most of my friends shrug this off and says he’s a shy guy and is scared of talking to girls, however i don’t think so. even if he was that shy, he would prefer to talk to me online than in real life.





June 10, 2019, 09:41:51 PM
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Mijs1995


Hi Sadlilboys,

I suppose I can try to answer your question because I AM a 'shy' boy.
I am an adult, 23 y/o, and still find myself absolutely clueless as to what to say to people, especially when discussing sensitive topics (ie establishing a relationship).
My coping strategy to communication has been 'rehearsing' and mimicking the day to day conversation others have, and when I do not have this prior experience I am stuck!
If he is anything like me he is possibly a little nervous about what you will think of the content of his FB profile (is he a bit daggy, like some sort of closeted nerd or stamp collector :-P), but messenger can usually be used without a pre requisite requirement to be 'friends'.
Also again, if he is anything like me, he will appreciate a message or text, and he'll respond in due course when he knows what to say. Of course make sure the message content gives reason for him to respond, rather than 'Hi'. Also, if he doesn't respond, you now have a convenient conversation
starter. "Hi, how are you? What where you thoughts on (blah)"

Cheers
M

June 14, 2019, 05:36:18 PM
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sadlilboys


hi @Mijs1995, thanks so much for replying to my question!!  what do you suggest i do? do i take up the initiative to talk to him in real life or do it by social media? i mean not denying the fact that he has not accepted or read my direct message yet.

June 19, 2019, 02:22:41 AM
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salbybba


hi!
my perception of the issue is that hes just a shy kid. if you feel comfortable taking initiative and talking to him in person, then you should. since he gave you his instagram to talk to him, it opened communication.

June 19, 2019, 07:39:45 PM
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Jason394811


Sounds like he is shy. You may need to take the first step and talk to him again.

June 26, 2019, 06:25:12 AM
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Seraph


I am in agreement with what others have been saying. I am assuming he is a shy person. Be cautious though, you don't want to come off as overly friendly. It might make them even more nervous to talk to you.

July 07, 2019, 06:04:19 PM
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Garona


Hello,

He sounds like a shy person. Try to initiate. It is simple as "how was your day". However, if it takes a lot of pushing and minimal reactions, maybe leave it after awhile. It all depends on you and what you want out of it. If it starts bothering you even more or you feel like it's more than him being "shy", then talk to him about it. It is always the best to word it out than hold it in and let it affect you.

But yeah... My primary advice: be bold and give it a go!