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Author Topic: Is he cheating and I went through his phone ?

October 22, 2019, 08:55:02 PM
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Long story my boyfriend is Irish, I am from the states he lives here. I noticed he started following this pretty girl on Instagram thought nothing of it until one of our mutual friend said did you see who he followed. She explained. This girl was someone he dated who he was hooked on and even though it’s been 4 years he always tries to get back in contact with her. They seem to fight, fall out then reconnect.

Anyway I let it go because no point working myself up but he left his phone on the bed and messages started coming in from her.
Asking him did he mean to add her, I know I shouldn’t have but I looked at all the messages, he said that he had been thinking about her and added her. She replied saying she had been thinking about him a lot lately aswell. She asked would he ever come home and he said maybe in the future.

she made a joke about how could put up with a high maintenance American girls while she said it in a humorous way, his reply was serious saying yeah they’ll never be on the same level as you and that hurt me. The last message was from him saying if you are ever here tell me we can spend time together which she replied just come home ☹️

Should I confront him or just dump him? Do you think it’s just feelings of homesickness? And I one hundred percent know I shouldn’t have went through his phone .

October 23, 2019, 07:57:25 PM
Reply #1


By what you said, it sounded like he was just thinking of her. Sometimes people think of girl/boyfriends in their past. That's normal. But now that you have seen the messages you have two choices. 1) Forget that you saw it and act like you hadn't looked through his phone, or 2) Confront him and admit the snooping which will probably lead to a fight. It's up to you how honest you want to be. It didn't sound like he was stuck on her so much from what you typed, it sounded like he was honoring you even to some extent, but maybe it brought back some feelings for him which he forgot. I don't know. Best wishes though.

February 22, 2020, 01:45:30 AM
Reply #2


I think it sounds like he is starting an emotional affair with her.  It is disrespectful to you.  He should only make comments that are positive about you.  Is this how you want to spend the rest of your life?  They seem to be taking it too far already.

February 28, 2020, 12:57:53 AM
Reply #3


Honestly doesn’t sound good. I think it was disrespectful of him to reach out to his ex and especially to compare her to you. It sounds like he’s stuck on her which is never good :/

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