It was the little things, you know? When we first started dating, she would point at beautiful strangers and say things like, “Look at that stunner.” At first, I just thought my girlfriend was really cool and wasn’t like one of those overly jealous / insecure types. Then I noticed she started spending more time with her girlfriends, and how she would stare at women passing by when we were out grocery shopping or on our Saturday night dates.

I think what really gave it away was when I borrowed her laptop to check my email and saw that she recently googled “how to search women by ID.” I looked back at her and saw that she was preoccupied with something on TV, which means she probably forgot about it. Should I confront her about this? I love her dearly and even though it might mean losing her and our relationship, I don’t want her to bear the pain of being in the closet any longer, if she really is bi or a lesbian.