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August 20, 2018, 08:37:35 AM
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halfsister83


I will be meeting my stepsister for the first time next week and I don’t think it’s a good idea though. My mom got pregnant nine years ago while she was working abroad and she never said a word to us about that until now. She got impregnated by a foreign man who ran away after knowing her condition. She wants me to meet her daughter and I don’t know if I should be glad or get mad. I know she expects me to understand because I’m too old to feel bad about this matter. I just can’t help but feel a little upset. I think this is normal.







August 21, 2018, 10:35:36 AM
Reply #1

goodevening


I will be meeting my stepsister for the first time next week and I don’t think it’s a good idea though. My mom got pregnant nine years ago while she was working abroad and she never said a word to us about that until now. She got impregnated by a foreign man who ran away after knowing her condition. She wants me to meet her daughter and I don’t know if I should be glad or get mad. I know she expects me to understand because I’m too old to feel bad about this matter. I just can’t help but feel a little upset. I think this is normal.

For sure you will feel upset, this is horrible. So, just to clarify @halfsister83, your mum went abroad, met a foreign man, got pregnant, had the child then what happened?

How did she raise the child without you knowing? Did you stay abroad for a while, then come home?

I think it's normal to be upset, very normal and she probably understands that. She has most likely been trying to avoid this situation for a very long time now, but she's giving in.

It's a difficult one, but I think you need to try and move forward. Holding onto negative thoughts (even though it's evry hard) won't have any positive outcomes.

August 23, 2018, 07:42:42 PM
Reply #2

sidica


I think it's normal to feel upset and is good to let be the emotion and let know to the person that you are upset and why; because we can't be happy or smiling all the time; that wouldn't be healthy.
However have in mind that facts can't be changed and don't get upset too long or get obsessed with the details, It will just make your mom feel uncomfortable and will make you feel worst. It's horrible when someone so closes like a mother hyde this kind of secrets and feeling tired is one of the worst feelings. Try to find what was her motivation, maybe she was experiencing a period of loneliness when all happened.

On the good side, I have to say that your mom is an adult woman and she has assumed her responsibilities which makes me think that she is a strong woman.

August 24, 2018, 12:08:12 PM
Reply #3

Jenniferdainty


Yes, it's just normal for you to be upset. However, keep in mind that she is still your sister by blood. She should not be held responsible for your mother's mistakes. She is innocent. We have this saying that you have the right to be mad but you don't have the right to be rude. Don't let your emotion take over you. Try your best to be nice to your sister and who knows maybe later on you two will become close. For your mom, just be honest to her. Give her a chance to explain. You may not forgive her that fast but don't close your door for possibilities. Time heals all wounds.     

 

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