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Author Topic: How to love yourself more in a relationship

August 12, 2018, 05:20:55 PM
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goodevening


Hi all,

We all know that when you're in a relationship, it's important to focus on yourself as well as being a great partner.

If you have been in a couple of relationships before then I am sure we can all relate that being in a one-sided relationship isn't cool, and when you put all of your effort and time into that one person  for the relationship to just end: you're left with nothing. It can be very crippling.

Here's a question for the community ... how to love yourself more in a relationship?.


August 12, 2018, 08:59:20 PM
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NesMarcos


I think it is better not to be in a one-sided relationship. Basically, there is nothing good being in that kind of relationship and I think no one deserves it. Moreover, as a respond to your question, hmmm better know your limitations. Always think that you have to love yourself more because if the time comes that you need to separate from your significant other, you still have something left to put yourself back.

August 13, 2018, 06:44:11 PM
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sidica


Learning to love ourselves is a hard task, even when we are not in a relationship, it's amazing how many people including me have had self-esteem problems at least once in life. In my opinión you need to be happy with yourself till some point before starting a relationship, other ways are very eassy to get lost in the relationship.
I've learned to balance my relationship by having my own goals, and goals in common with my boyfriend. He has his own friends and he likes to go out and spend time with the guys and I'm cool with that ' cause I do the same with my friends, but we agreed previously to be respectful and a being exclusive.
I had a couple of bad experiences where the relationships where unbalanced and I ended crying a lot, feeling fatigue for doing a lot for that person and feeling empty myself. Once I identified this problem I decided to change the way how I used to be in the relationships, and I started to do nice things  for me, to take care of my needs and treat me with love and respect, when you have a healthy self-esteem it's easier to enjoy your relationship, 'cause you do things for each other and you spent quality time together but you also have your own life and you feel happy there. There's no rush, pressure, and is eassy to talk and share affection.


August 31, 2018, 09:00:18 PM
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goodevening


Learning to love ourselves is a hard task, even when we are not in a relationship, it's amazing how many people including me have had self-esteem problems at least once in life. In my opinión you need to be happy with yourself till some point before starting a relationship, other ways are very eassy to get lost in the relationship.
I've learned to balance my relationship by having my own goals, and goals in common with my boyfriend. He has his own friends and he likes to go out and spend time with the guys and I'm cool with that ' cause I do the same with my friends, but we agreed previously to be respectful and a being exclusive.
I had a couple of bad experiences where the relationships where unbalanced and I ended crying a lot, feeling fatigue for doing a lot for that person and feeling empty myself. Once I identified this problem I decided to change the way how I used to be in the relationships, and I started to do nice things  for me, to take care of my needs and treat me with love and respect, when you have a healthy self-esteem it's easier to enjoy your relationship, 'cause you do things for each other and you spent quality time together but you also have your own life and you feel happy there. There's no rush, pressure, and is eassy to talk and share affection.

@sidica Thank you for the detailed response, I agree that a relationship needs to be balanced, a healthy self-esteem is definitely important.

That's probably why my last relationship didn't work out and that I wasn't happy, because she was mostly in control, in which I then lost my self-esteem...  :-[

 

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