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Author Topic: How do you let someone know you are not interested without hurting them?

June 06, 2019, 10:03:08 PM
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Crippling Anxiety

So there's this guy at school who suddenly began showing an interest in me. I barely know him, but he's been sitting near me/kind of following me around and looking at me when he thinks I'm not looking. Today he told me he "loved me" and gave me his number. I barely know this dude. I'm sure he's a nice person, but that just came off as really, really creepy. I've never been in a relationship before and didn't know how to handle it. I don't want to be in a relationship with this guy--he's okay, but his personality isn't really my type, and I can't force myself to be attracted to him. Is that wrong?
I don't want to tell him I'm uncomfortable with him following me around and giving me his number. I think it's just my personality that's the problem. I know a lot of other people who would be flattered by this, but it's unflattering to me. How do I let him down nicely and tell him I feel uncomfortable? Thank you in advance to whoever reaches out.

June 07, 2019, 11:31:58 AM
Reply #1


Being uncomfortable, especially at school is not a good thing.  Especially when school sets you up for moving forward in life.  And you have plenty of time for relationships in distant future.

The best course of action, I'm afraid to say, in this circumstance is to be honest.  By not saying anything it's not helping you or him.

Long long ago(in a galaxy far far away) I had similar issue and the best thing was honesty, not easy but it sometimes works. 

All you can say to him is sorry, I'm not interesting in you and your making me feel uncomfortable.  If he is understanding he will back off.  Also if it helps, get a friend to be with you when you talk to him.

If it continues and he still doesn't back off then you may need to get more advice from the school teachers, because you feel uncomfortable.

Being comfortable at school is important because too much pressure during these times can effect school work and grades.

And in a worse case scenario you may need to get your parents involved.

Not an easy thing to deal with, but in school you deserve to feel safe and only have pressures of school work/study.

Good luck and good luck with school.

« Last Edit: June 07, 2019, 11:35:34 AM by Elliott »
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