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January 19, 2019, 08:11:52 PM
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Kobe1kylie2


Ive been dating this guy for a year and a half. Before we dated, he really liked me in fact was in love with me. We got together in 2017 and have had out ups and downs but ive fallen in love with this boy. In September 2018, we got into a massive argument over something stupid(some tension had been boiling up) and he broke things off and blamed me for why this was over. We got back together that same day after some break up sex and remembering the good times and we were happy. It took a few weeks to get back on track but ultimately he became an even better boyfriend than before. He wasnt afraid to show more pda like holding my hand at school, kissing in front of friends/family and giving me appraisal and letting how he feels be known. I went with on vacation for New years and he was super excited for me to be there with him. He was tentative and checked up on me, kissed my head, played with my hair, and even on one night told me how much he regretted that one fight and said he was in a rough mindset where he thought he wanted to be on his own and single but he realized how much he loved me and cried to me telling me he wished he never hurt me that bad and he regretted it so much because he loved me deeply. He even gave me a ring and told me that the 2 hearts connecting into 1 were us as we were atill 2 people but our hearts are intertwined. anyways, his family has a beach house and his stepsister had a party there for her 18th birthday. They were drinking that night and my boyfriend told me that he was drunk and was going to bed when a girl came in and got ontop of him and began to kiss him and he kissed her back and they didn't stop till her friends walked in and she ran out. This happend on saturday and things were weird this week at school as he was avoiding me and ignoring my texts until one night i asked is everything ok? And he said yes im just dealing with some stuff and dont want to talk about it. He called me later saying he was gonna come over to talk. He pulled up and was telling me how bad of a person he was and how he was manipulative and learned from his father. And he said he didnt something bad and i asked if he cheated and he said don't make me say it. And then finally he told me the story about that night and that girl. I demanded to know her name(he didnt tell me bc he knew that wouldnt be good for me since she lives an hour away from us) i began crying and screaming and he wouldnt kiss me and told me i would find someone better than him as he wasnt worth it. The thing is, i instantly forgave him. I love him. While talking we would have moments where i was screaming and he told me to punch him in the face and i wouldn't. And other moments with giggling and him holding me while i cried. He told me that the days following that night, he wasnt able to eat, couldn't sleep and eveytime he tried eating he would throw up. He told me we could only be friends, platonic friends as he screwed things up bad and im a good person and im gonna do great things in life and dont need him to hold me back. He woulsnt kiss me because he said it would be too hard to do so.The last verbal thing he told me was get the fuck out of my car after i began to threaten him with breaking the car. He told me earlier that he wasnt gonna show up to school the next day so i wouldnt have to see him. Ive been a wreck since. I went to our schools counselor and she told me that she believes he has a lot of problems in life regarding his family. And she believes that he needs his own time to forgive himself because if he was reacting that way to guilt, he genuinely feels guilty and bad for what he did as he said he wouldn't hurt me again. She also told me that if i need to reach out to him, do it as i needed to het my feelings out. I texted him saying that i was upset but also wanted to hold him and love on him. I told him i could forgive him and that i still love him. He said we can still be friends but understands if i cant forgive him. I said i wanted him. And he said he wanted to be alone and i said why dont you want me? And he said i want to be alone so i can forgive myself for what i did and be alone before i jump into anything else. My guy friends are telling me that he may have wanted to dump me because hes going off to a different college than me and he may want to explore with other people and that kiss was his way out. My parents thought we did more with that girl because of how he was reacting. I called his mom and she told me that he said it was only making out and that she believes what he told her. Apparently he feel awful for what he did and is not doing well. I want him back. I love him, but everyone says hes not comming back. Maybe true but i love him and he loves me. Hes my best friend and ive told him things ive never told anyone else and weve made so many memories and he was my first boyfriend. I believe our relationship is deep and personal and sensual. I love him so much and want to stay together. My mom says once a cheater always a cheater but if he feels this much remorse then???? Im gonna ignore him for a week to focus on myself and then call him up to meet up and ask him some questions about that night and of he really kissed that girl back because that was a way out. I really want him right now and am missing him terribly but im giving us are space and time. If i clear things up should i get back with him? Or should we only remain friends? I really want to continue our relationship but ill understand if its not meant to be. I know im 17 but ive never been more happy or had that close of a friend who really cared that much about me. I miss my best friend

January 21, 2019, 10:01:43 AM
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Ive been dating this guy for a year and a half. Before we dated, he really liked me in fact was in love with me. We got together in 2017 and have had out ups and downs but ive fallen in love with this boy. In September 2018, we got into a massive argument over something stupid(some tension had been boiling up) and he broke things off and blamed me for why this was over. We got back together that same day after some break up sex and remembering the good times and we were happy. It took a few weeks to get back on track but ultimately he became an even better boyfriend than before. He wasnt afraid to show more pda like holding my hand at school, kissing in front of friends/family and giving me appraisal and letting how he feels be known. I went with on vacation for New years and he was super excited for me to be there with him. He was tentative and checked up on me, kissed my head, played with my hair, and even on one night told me how much he regretted that one fight and said he was in a rough mindset where he thought he wanted to be on his own and single but he realized how much he loved me and cried to me telling me he wished he never hurt me that bad and he regretted it so much because he loved me deeply. He even gave me a ring and told me that the 2 hearts connecting into 1 were us as we were atill 2 people but our hearts are intertwined. anyways, his family has a beach house and his stepsister had a party there for her 18th birthday. They were drinking that night and my boyfriend told me that he was drunk and was going to bed when a girl came in and got ontop of him and began to kiss him and he kissed her back and they didn't stop till her friends walked in and she ran out. This happend on saturday and things were weird this week at school as he was avoiding me and ignoring my texts until one night i asked is everything ok? And he said yes im just dealing with some stuff and dont want to talk about it. He called me later saying he was gonna come over to talk. He pulled up and was telling me how bad of a person he was and how he was manipulative and learned from his father. And he said he didnt something bad and i asked if he cheated and he said don't make me say it. And then finally he told me the story about that night and that girl. I demanded to know her name(he didnt tell me bc he knew that wouldnt be good for me since she lives an hour away from us) i began crying and screaming and he wouldnt kiss me and told me i would find someone better than him as he wasnt worth it. The thing is, i instantly forgave him. I love him. While talking we would have moments where i was screaming and he told me to punch him in the face and i wouldn't. And other moments with giggling and him holding me while i cried. He told me that the days following that night, he wasnt able to eat, couldn't sleep and eveytime he tried eating he would throw up. He told me we could only be friends, platonic friends as he screwed things up bad and im a good person and im gonna do great things in life and dont need him to hold me back. He woulsnt kiss me because he said it would be too hard to do so.The last verbal thing he told me was get the fuck out of my car after i began to threaten him with breaking the car. He told me earlier that he wasnt gonna show up to school the next day so i wouldnt have to see him. Ive been a wreck since. I went to our schools counselor and she told me that she believes he has a lot of problems in life regarding his family. And she believes that he needs his own time to forgive himself because if he was reacting that way to guilt, he genuinely feels guilty and bad for what he did as he said he wouldn't hurt me again. She also told me that if i need to reach out to him, do it as i needed to het my feelings out. I texted him saying that i was upset but also wanted to hold him and love on him. I told him i could forgive him and that i still love him. He said we can still be friends but understands if i cant forgive him. I said i wanted him. And he said he wanted to be alone and i said why dont you want me? And he said i want to be alone so i can forgive myself for what i did and be alone before i jump into anything else. My guy friends are telling me that he may have wanted to dump me because hes going off to a different college than me and he may want to explore with other people and that kiss was his way out. My parents thought we did more with that girl because of how he was reacting. I called his mom and she told me that he said it was only making out and that she believes what he told her. Apparently he feel awful for what he did and is not doing well. I want him back. I love him, but everyone says hes not comming back. Maybe true but i love him and he loves me. Hes my best friend and ive told him things ive never told anyone else and weve made so many memories and he was my first boyfriend. I believe our relationship is deep and personal and sensual. I love him so much and want to stay together. My mom says once a cheater always a cheater but if he feels this much remorse then???? Im gonna ignore him for a week to focus on myself and then call him up to meet up and ask him some questions about that night and of he really kissed that girl back because that was a way out. I really want him right now and am missing him terribly but im giving us are space and time. If i clear things up should i get back with him? Or should we only remain friends? I really want to continue our relationship but ill understand if its not meant to be. I know im 17 but ive never been more happy or had that close of a friend who really cared that much about me. I miss my best friend

It's so difficult and you're very young, you may not realise it now, but in time, you will, but everything happens for a reason. You will get over this and move forward and look back at it and laugh.

I agree with your mum that once a cheater always a cheater! I once dated a guy that cheated on all of his other girlfriends, and thought that our relationship was special, but then he cheated on me too!

Surround yourself with positive people, keep yourself occupied, think positive and you'll get through it @Kobe1kylie2 !

 

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