Lets Chat Love
Register An AccountLogin

Author Topic: Guy never texts first

February 27, 2020, 10:43:48 PM
Read 566 times
Offline

confusedinlove5


i've been hanging out with a guy who i have a crush on for a while, and we've just been in this weird limbo. we go out alone together, and definitely flirt, but it's been several "dates" and we haven't even kissed (which is super weird for me since like, I've kissed most of my friends. kissing isn't a big deal for me at all.) the main problem is that even though he always texts me back, and says yes when i ask him out, he NEVER initiates anything. for awhile he would ASK TO HUG ME (weird for so many reasons) but even that's stopped. i don't think it's that he doesn't like me - he's always complimenting me, staring at me in that intense way guys do when they're attracted to you, he always seems happy to see me - but i have to do all the work of initiating things, and i'm sick of it. i'm constantly second-guessing whether he even likes me, especially since i'm autistic and so i worry that i've totally misinterpreted things and he's just being nice. what could be going on here?

March 12, 2020, 04:09:22 PM
Reply #1
Offline

FireGecko90


Probably sounds silly but have you ever just asked him out?

March 13, 2020, 01:08:10 PM
Reply #2
Offline

confusedinlove5


Probably sounds silly but have you ever just asked him out?
well, yeah. i don't know how clear it was that they were dates, but like i said, i've asked him to do something one-on-one with me several times. he always says yes, but he's never asked me out himself.

March 13, 2020, 04:12:44 PM
Reply #3
Offline

joshuawolk


Sorry that you're going through this.  Guys are often very forthcoming; however sometimes they can be a little reluctant or shy for various reasons.  What I would suggest is for you to try and be open and honest about your feelings with him.  He may be having similar feelings of uncertainty and may be waiting for you to make the first move - hence why he doesn't initiate first contact.  He may just be nervous.  Tell him how you feel about him and what you want.

 

Related Topics

  Subject / Started by Replies Last post
1 Replies
442 Views
Last post March 21, 2020, 04:17:29 AM
by Happi
0 Replies
66 Views
Last post April 13, 2021, 11:02:04 AM
by lequochung
0 Replies
53 Views
Last post April 13, 2021, 11:03:59 AM
by lequochung
0 Replies
47 Views
Last post April 13, 2021, 11:04:52 AM
by lequochung