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Author Topic: Engagement or Moving In - We can’t agree!

October 16, 2018, 01:37:37 AM
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Snoopy265


Just wondering what the next step in a relationship could be besides engagement/marriange or moving in together. My boyfriend and I both want the same thing but I believe the next step is engagement and he believes it is moving in together. I’m wondering if there’s an alternative suggestion for the time being (that’s not spending a dew nights at his/my house)? We’ve been together for over 5 years but do not live together. We do want to be together and get married and live together. He feels forced to be engaged before livivng together, and I feel forced to live together before engagement. So we’re stuck at an impass. Any suggestions?

October 16, 2018, 08:49:16 AM
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Just wondering what the next step in a relationship could be besides engagement/marriange or moving in together. My boyfriend and I both want the same thing but I believe the next step is engagement and he believes it is moving in together. I’m wondering if there’s an alternative suggestion for the time being (that’s not spending a dew nights at his/my house)? We’ve been together for over 5 years but do not live together. We do want to be together and get married and live together. He feels forced to be engaged before livivng together, and I feel forced to live together before engagement. So we’re stuck at an impass. Any suggestions?

Hey @Snoopy265 welcome hope you enjoy your stay x

i think every1 has mixed opinions on what the next step ultimately could be, but i think you need to think about what would be best for your relationship, rather than listening to other people and what they're currently doing (u don't have to follow the same route as them).

you have been together for 5 years but how old are you both?

i personally feel as if you need to live together first before getting engaged, as living together will ultimately test your relationship as you'll be with each other ALL the time. Plus you have to coordinate activities, pay bills and work together to essentially survive in this new property that you have both bought.

if you get engaged first then move into somewhere, you then may decide that the relationship isn't working, etc etc.

i would say the next step is to rent and get a property, in which this will be the test before then getting on the property ladder and buying your first mortgage.

at least then if it doesn't work out let's say, you can speak to the landlord and get out, whereas f you have a mortgage it's a little more tricky.

i hope that helps ..

 

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