Author Topic: Do you share your phone with your partner?

ion · April 10, 2018, 07:52:39 PM

Well I think this is one of the common problem in relationship. Do you share your cellphone to your partner? I wonder if the cellphone privacy is necessary in a relationship.

Staff · April 10, 2018, 08:03:57 PM

Quote from: ion on April 10, 2018, 07:52:39 PM

Well I think this is one of the common problem in relationship. Do you share your cellphone to your partner? I wonder if the cellphone privacy is necessary in a relationship.

Hmm. I think everyone likes their privacy, however, if the other half was overly-protective of her phone, then I'd be concerned.

Personally, if the girlfriend asked to go on my phone, I'd let her, because I don't have anything to hide. I wouldn't care.

The only reason I can think of when you wouldn't let your other half go onto your phone is if your hiding something, or you have insecurities that your not willing to explain. That to me is quite odd, though.

It could be as simple as that he/shes taken a tonne of selfies, and they don't want you going through the photos because they're shy about it, but I'd wait to see what their initial response is when you ask them.

junrose123 · April 10, 2018, 10:10:15 PM

Yes of course because I don't have anything to hide with my partner that is why I don't see any problem on why I will not lend my phone to my partner. I know that there are some people that is too secretive in terms of lending their personal things but for me I will give everything to let my partner knows that I am not doing any unfair practices or thing in her. It is also a way to prove that we are not doing something fishy in a relationship and to prove that we really love our partner.

EasyDeasy · April 10, 2018, 10:28:32 PM

I think boundaries are important.

You're still your own person, whether you're part of a relationship or not, and I think that entitles you to your own privacy. Of course you have the right to share things to and with your partner, but remember that that doesn't have to be everything.

The way I see it, a healthy relationship is one that just lets the other person be who they are. If your relationship has to have this system of surveillance between you and your partner (e.g., constantly checking each other's phone or social media accounts), then maybe you ought to rethink your relationship. Maybe there are issues -- trust issues -- that you both have to resolve.

ion · April 10, 2018, 10:44:03 PM

Quote from: Support on April 10, 2018, 08:03:57 PM

Quote from: ion on April 10, 2018, 07:52:39 PM
Well I think this is one of the common problem in relationship. Do you share your cellphone to your partner? I wonder if the cellphone privacy is necessary in a relationship.

Hmm. I think everyone likes their privacy, however, if the other half was overly-protective of her phone, then I'd be concerned.

Personally, if the girlfriend asked to go on my phone, I'd let her, because I don't have anything to hide. I wouldn't care.

The only reason I can think of when you wouldn't let your other half go onto your phone is if your hiding something, or you have insecurities that your not willing to explain. That to me is quite odd, though.

It could be as simple as that he/shes taken a tonne of selfies, and they don't want you going through the photos because they're shy about it, but I'd wait to see what their initial response is when you ask them.

Yeah, but sometimes It's looks like that, they don't trust each others if someone ask to see the cellphone.

but you''re right, I thing much better if someone willing to show the cellphone without asking why.

amelia88 · April 10, 2018, 11:23:05 PM

My husband and I have separate phones. But similar to other commenters in this thread, I think if he started being overly protective of his phone then I'd probably worry. I do think that sadly in this day and age smartphones are both a blessing and a curse - having people be able to access you any time of the day or night whether it be by phone call, text, or social media makes it tough for a lot of relationships.

Martinsx · April 11, 2018, 12:56:39 AM

Quote from: ion on April 10, 2018, 07:52:39 PM

Well I think this is one of the common problem in relationship. Do you share your cellphone to your partner? I wonder if the cellphone privacy is necessary in a relationship.

As much as it's called a relationship, I still believe that one's privacy is very important. It's not that one's partner cannot make use of their partner's phone for one thing or another but it should never be abused.

Snooping in your relationship partner's phone is very wrong because it's showing lack of faith and trust in your partner.

Instead of being in a relationship where you cannot trust your relationship partner, it's best not to be in such relationship in the first place. If you have anything you wish to know about from your partner, it's best to ask rather than spy on his or her phone.

JackOAT · April 11, 2018, 04:07:44 AM

A phone is considered as the most personal thing. Sharing your phone with your life partner means you are ready to share each and every detail of your personal life with them. And to make them feel secure in a relationship, one has to eradicate everything and anything that can cause any doubts. So, to avoid any suspicions, I don’t hide my phone from my significant other. I believe that the more open, transparent and undoubted your relationship is, the more successful and long-lasting it would be.

Jasonn · April 14, 2018, 02:38:04 AM

No way, it's not like the days when separate phone lines might have been expensive. Anyway, I have no need to test loyalty by sacrificing privacy. That seems ridiculous.

Bojoray · April 19, 2018, 12:59:24 PM

Sometimes, there are situations wherein I need to share it with my partner however there are also times that It's not necessary if something is really personal. However if you are not hiding anything from your partner why would you be afraid to share your phone with your partner?

jeniffer26 · April 19, 2018, 03:54:49 PM

Its a personal thing. Let your partner have their own privacy since they are human too. Remove that trust issue thingy just simply trust your partner besides its part of your growth as a couple. Set boundaries it doesnt mean that you will share everything really means everything, you didn't share your toothbrush to your partney do you? So let your phone be your personal use and ypur partner too.

Yannie · April 20, 2018, 08:54:26 AM

My husband and I share his phone since my daughter broke mine recently. Well, I didn't see any problem with it. He even tells me to answer the calls intended for him and reply messages intended for him whenever his busy to do them himself. He's not bother about it at all. And we don't see it as a problem.

zokilee · April 20, 2018, 12:11:00 PM

My girl can take my phone, read my messages or whatever, whenever she want to. Why is that ok with me, well because I dont have anything to hide and even if I had anything to hide it would not been on my phone.

Patrick Y · April 28, 2018, 02:40:41 AM

No, I don't like to share phones, social media passwords, and computers with a partner. Well, I might do so for a computer, assuming she couldn't access my account. But anyway, privacy is a big deal to me!

QueenFarLou · July 22, 2018, 12:57:45 PM

Others say, it is a step too far but for me it means trust. Trust that I am not hiding anything from my partner and to eliminate all kinds of doubts. If I have to share my life with this person, why can't I share a simple mobile device?

NesMarcos · July 26, 2018, 03:37:51 PM

I think sharing your phone with your partner is okay but depends if you voluntarily share it with him/her. Some relationships demand less privacy from each other and some are not.

In some most cases, phone is one of the most reasons why a couple breaks up. A phone doesn't measure your loyalty and honesty to your partner. It's you and will always be you who can tell how much you foothold your trust and love purely to your partner.

Lissiel · July 28, 2018, 07:00:09 AM

Yes, I share my phone with my partner. I don't mind at all if he wants to use or check my phone. But the good thing is, he doesn't really check my phone to see if I'm doing something wrong, because he trusts me. I'm also the same, I don' check his phone though he gave me the right to check it; I trust him too. It's up to the both of you if how much privacy means to you. Each partner is different when it comes to that situation.

RoseKaizer · July 30, 2018, 10:26:57 AM

Well it's up to them if they share their phones, my boyfriend and I decided to share our phones, we trust each other and we talk that no more secrets at all. Even our social medias accounts we share the passwords tow each other.

jaymish · July 30, 2018, 11:12:20 AM

No I don't. I expect m partner to have and live his own life. I expect to live my own. If you can't trust someone you shouldn't be in a relationship with them. I trust that they are not doing anything to betray our relationship. If they are I will feel it, my instincts will kick in and I don't have to keep worrying about it. Why would I want to monitor on someone or read their messages. I think I have better things to do.

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