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March 30, 2019, 10:10:32 PM
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This is a long story but I will condense.
I was with my boyfriend for 2 years when we decided to break up as we were young and were fighting a lot. We were so in love and it was not due to falling out of love but just due to stress and immaturity. We continued to talk on and off for 6 months both getting with other people in the mean time. We started getting back together after this 6 months when we were on a night out and he came up to me and we talked about how much we missed each other. We decided to just see each other from this point on again.
We weren't exclusive yet and had been getting together for about a month. One night we were joking around when I found out he had be snap chatting a girl that his friends set him up with when we were broken up but he had never met her. He had been snap chatting her for 4 months at this point which I found odd because I would for sure delete any guy I was talking to in that way after getting back with him. I got upset that he was talking to her but he insisted that she helped him through a tough time (even though they never talked about me). I got upset and said it was me or her and he got annoyed saying he doesn't trust I will stay at this moment so why should he stop texting her. We discussed it further and it was brushed away for another month.
There was 1 or 2 more arguments about it and he promised to stop talking to her if it meant being with me. A while after this promise I found out he was still snap chatting her but trying to hide it. He apologized profusely for lying but again said they were just friends and he couldn't be mean and just cut contact. Can I reiterate they have never met. I felt I was being crazy by insisting he stop talking to her while with me as he kept insisting to not. I just can't understand with our past (as in how long we've known each other) why he would need to talk to this girl especially when he has never met her.
I love him so much and honestly see my life with him. Their contact has become less and less frequent between each time I've brought it up but it still makes me uncomfortable.
Am I crazy for being hurt by this? How would you feel in my position? I'm just very confused by all of this and need advice.
« Last Edit: March 30, 2019, 10:17:01 PM by Marie-barrett90 »

March 31, 2019, 02:18:30 PM
Reply #1


Why is he not allowed to talk to other women? That's not okay.

You insisted, so he lied and went behind your back. That's also not okay.

Look, I don't like to be harsh, but I'm going to be, because I think it's called for here.

What the hell are you two doing? It sounds like you don't trust him and want to control him, and he's perfectly willing to lie to you instead of standing up for himself or leaving you. Where's that dynamic going to lead? You really see this leading to a good future? Both of you need to get your acts together and either clean this relationship up or just break up before you end up pregnant and subjecting an innocent child to a dysfunctional home.


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