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Author Topic: BF and I agreed on engagement timeline, but now I want to move it up?

April 08, 2019, 07:41:29 PM
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california10


BF (28M) and I (25F) have been together for about 3 years. Back in October of 2018, we moved across the country from one coast to the other (a big move). During this time, I told him that we've been together for about 3 years, and we are making this big move.. I would like some sort of commitment from him (engagement), since the move is a big deal.

He agreed, and we agreed that after one year of us living together (October 2019), within 6 months of that we will get engaged (but we agreed it'll probably happen before 2020). Great! But, I am starting to think about potentially wanting to get engaged sooner. We aren't poor, we are making ends meet and saving a ton. But BF just got a side-hussle that is giving him a good amount of extra cash every month.

I found a ring that I liked that's about $4,300 and told him about it. He said, 'oh it's only $4,300? Maybe in a few months, we could just buy it and use our joint account to pay for it" (I told him I'd like to help pay for it, just cause I felt it was the right thing to do).

For the past few months though, I bring getting engaged up to him and he gets frustrated when I talk about it. So if I am going to bring up/want to have a sit-down discussion about my desire to change the timeline, I'm gonna wait a few more weeks to do it.

But is there any advice that I could get to help me get my point across and give a good reason as to not waiting the 7 months more?

April 13, 2019, 06:46:59 AM
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katlunara


Kinda sounds like he's not ready to be engaged yet, but still wants to. Both of you aren't on the same level yet. Which is why he's getting frustrated with you.
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