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July 31, 2018, 11:26:29 PM
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 I've been with Roger for 2 years.  Until now we have had a fairly good relationship, a few bumps in the road here and there, but we always worked it out or put it aside. 
In May he had surgery on his testicle.  Doctor told him to take it easy for 6 weeks, wear an athletic support, don't lift anything heavier than a basketball...take it easy.
My daughter and her two sons, ages 7 and 4 had been out of town.  I took care of their dog, big strong pitbull.  When she got back we took the dog and his food to them.  Roger was first out of the truck, carrying dog food barrel.  Up to the door he goes.  Kids all excited about seeing the dog and then Roger gets hit in the groin.  I was walking up to the house and walked past him on my way inside.  He said something about going to the truck.  I'm assuming because I didn't realize what happened, that he was just being cautious and didn't want to get injured with all the commotion.  I talked to my daughter a few minutes and then he honks the horn.  I say my goodbyes and go to the truck and head home.  He is screaming at me that he was attacked by the 4 year old, that every time he is around him he gets poked in the eye, bitten, kicked or punched.  I told he he needed to go to the emergency room to get checked out but he refused.  The next day I told him the same.  He called the boy evil and said he will never go around him again. 
Roger has played with the boys, I thought, rather rough.  He loves to scare everyone, jumping out from behind doors, etc.  He has scared the 4 year old so I'm thinking the boy thinks he has to defend himself.  Just my thoughts.
Anyway, weeks later, Roger goes back to the Doctor.  Right now our relationship has deteriorated to the point we are no longer speaking.  I'm upset because Roger claims he is the victim and this little boy is evil.  Roger is 6 feet tall and weighs 250 pounds.  I know it isn't right for little boys to punch grownups, he doesn't punch anyone else unless they are rough housing.  But I don't think it is totally the fault of the child.  All I ask is that Roger take some of the blame for what happened.  He refuses and we are at the point of breaking up. 
Any comments will be appreciated, questions will be answered.
Thank you

August 14, 2018, 11:34:39 AM
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goodevening


I've been with Roger for 2 years.  Until now we have had a fairly good relationship, a few bumps in the road here and there, but we always worked it out or put it aside. 
In May he had surgery on his testicle.  Doctor told him to take it easy for 6 weeks, wear an athletic support, don't lift anything heavier than a basketball...take it easy.
My daughter and her two sons, ages 7 and 4 had been out of town.  I took care of their dog, big strong pitbull.  When she got back we took the dog and his food to them.  Roger was first out of the truck, carrying dog food barrel.  Up to the door he goes.  Kids all excited about seeing the dog and then Roger gets hit in the groin.  I was walking up to the house and walked past him on my way inside.  He said something about going to the truck.  I'm assuming because I didn't realize what happened, that he was just being cautious and didn't want to get injured with all the commotion.  I talked to my daughter a few minutes and then he honks the horn.  I say my goodbyes and go to the truck and head home.  He is screaming at me that he was attacked by the 4 year old, that every time he is around him he gets poked in the eye, bitten, kicked or punched.  I told he he needed to go to the emergency room to get checked out but he refused.  The next day I told him the same.  He called the boy evil and said he will never go around him again. 
Roger has played with the boys, I thought, rather rough.  He loves to scare everyone, jumping out from behind doors, etc.  He has scared the 4 year old so I'm thinking the boy thinks he has to defend himself.  Just my thoughts.
Anyway, weeks later, Roger goes back to the Doctor.  Right now our relationship has deteriorated to the point we are no longer speaking.  I'm upset because Roger claims he is the victim and this little boy is evil.  Roger is 6 feet tall and weighs 250 pounds.  I know it isn't right for little boys to punch grownups, he doesn't punch anyone else unless they are rough housing.  But I don't think it is totally the fault of the child.  All I ask is that Roger take some of the blame for what happened.  He refuses and we are at the point of breaking up. 
Any comments will be appreciated, questions will be answered.
Thank you

I think it's quite clear that Roer isn't a situation to be able to play and mess around with kids, especially as they aren't aware of the damage that they could cause (even though they're very little!).

I think the kid needs a reality check and telling off. He needs to understand that the can't do these things to Roger.

 

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