First off, I'd like to let you know that you are definitely not needy and that the way he is acting is causing you to feel insecure.

Men like that take what they have for granted, when you moved closer you probably became less valuable in his mind. The things we were given for free we place little value on, so now that he knows he can just swing by after work late night to get his goods and leave in the morning he will. Try refusing sex, see how quickly he loses the rest of his interest then...

The fact that he is 31 is also a bad sign because you can't change men/people who act this way that late in life. His first priority is clearly himself and not even in good way. It's not like he is saying, "Hold on hun, I'm about to finish my PhD and get this amazing new job that will bring new opportunities for the both of us." He is living the same life he has been living and is probably going nowhere. And still I hate to have such a hopeless look on this but my ex was the same way. He flunked all his classes in college, dropped out after that first year, and now works at a grocery store. I don't think he is ever really going to make anything of himself because when it comes to jobs he is lazy.

However, the difference between my ex and your bf is this: I was heartbroken when my ex cheated on me with a girl who lives halfway across the country. I tried to ruin the relationship and get him back because he became a completely different person after meeting her, even though they had never met in person. I thought it was much less than it was. They tried dating again a year later and are now a super happy couple. He sends her beautiful bouquets and other gifts through the mail regularly, he stays up late and talks with her on the phone until they fall asleep, and he has spent what little money he has to go visit her twice. As much as it pains me to say this, when she stepped onto the scene it stopped being my love story and became her's.

What I'm trying to say is that even though I have much greater plans for myself than my ex could have ever offered me, he still works with what he has got. He makes time for the girl he loves, he goes above and beyond for her and I'm sure that wouldn't change if they lived closer together. He's been at this for two years now. If your boyfriend really loved you he'd listen to you when you say you want to spend more time together. Even if he wasn't thoughtful enough to come up with the idea himself, he'd still say, "Hey! That's a great idea! I'd love to." when you bring up going out somewhere.

He just simply doesn't care to spend time with you and that's not your problem. There is nothing wrong with you, you just need to find a man who will do whatever it takes to spend his time with you, especially if the alternative is just watching TV. You feel needy and insecure because the relationship just isn't right for you or anyone who isn't willing to settle. You should feel like you are wanted and that you are spending a decent amount of time with him.

Not to mention the sexy wallpaper pic is a total turn off. So childish, I wouldn't tolerate it. It's one thing to consume porn on your own time, but to openly flaunt it like that?