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Author Topic: Am I being too strict with my partners over their ex's?

April 12, 2018, 07:12:02 AM
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 I've found my ex responding to her ex saying happy birthday on fb message when she told me she had no connection with him. My next relationship the same crap, my girl was friends with her ex boyfriend and was in a group chat with her ex and his buddies. Tbh I've left about 8 girls because of my jealousy / insecurity problem.
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April 12, 2018, 01:16:40 PM
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I've found my ex responding to her ex saying happy birthday on fb message when she told me she had no connection with him. My next relationship the same crap, my girl was friends with her ex boyfriend and was in a group chat with her ex and his buddies. Tbh I've left about 8 girls because of my jealousy / insecurity problem.

You really need to get to bottom of your insecurities, otherwise, it'll keep coming back to haunt you.

More importantly, when you do meet the right girl, you don't want the insecurities to cause problems.

Why are you insecure? Do you think that they will cheat? You need to identify WHY, in the first instance, then you can work on it.
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April 13, 2018, 04:35:14 AM
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I'm not really sure how to answer this.  I mean, do you have good reason to feel they may go back to the ex?  If not, then you're being too insecure etc.  I mean, I think it's normal for ex-lovers to be friends, right?

April 13, 2018, 12:17:18 PM
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I'm not really sure how to answer this.  I mean, do you have good reason to feel they may go back to the ex?  If not, then you're being too insecure etc.  I mean, I think it's normal for ex-lovers to be friends, right?

Woah, personally, I couldn't be friends with an ex.
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April 14, 2018, 02:40:10 AM
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I'm not really sure how to answer this.  I mean, do you have good reason to feel they may go back to the ex?  If not, then you're being too insecure etc.  I mean, I think it's normal for ex-lovers to be friends, right?

Woah, personally, I couldn't be friends with an ex.

Well, you would know more cause I've never been divorced or married.  Anyway, though, I'm just looking at it from a logical POV.  I mean, do you think your opinion might be extreme?

April 17, 2018, 10:47:48 PM
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Martinsx


If it's just a casual happy birthday chat or text messages then I don't see anything wrong with it, but if she kept constant communication with her ex then it's something I would agree to or accept because it's a huge disrespect on my personal.

April 19, 2018, 03:20:27 PM
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If you can't handle your insecurities, with a simple text to the ex, you should talk to your partner.  If she loves you, I know she will understand that.  You should talk about the do and don'ts in your relationship.  Honestly, there's nothing wrong with that simple text greetings happy birthday.  Your partner just don't want the issue like the bitterness in past relationship. 

April 28, 2018, 02:42:59 AM
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Patrick Y


I have no clue about this stuff cause my girlfriend has no serious boyfriends before me.  Anyway, though, if she did, I might be paranoid because I know that if I was married, I wouldn't want guys hanging around our place.

 

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