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Author Topic: Advice needed- I'm not interested in sex and husband isn't understanding

February 14, 2020, 06:00:24 AM
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Sunny910


Long story so please bare with me.

I've been married to my husband for near 4 years and we've been together probably just over 7.
We have a daughter who is nearly 3 and honestly I couldn't be happier.

Since having our daughter sex hasn't been on the top of my agenda.
I'm a manager of a shop and work long days on my own 3 times a week, so after finishing at 6 first thing is getting daughter sorted for bed, getting tea sorted for me and husband, then sorting out pack up/changing bag for daughter for nursery then it's our time.
Husband helps a lot with our daughter, we take turns putting her to bed etc and when one is doing bed time the other sorts out the food and other stuff.

Since about November time I've felt a lot of pressure from my husband to be doing "the sex" more often.
However, I'm just not interested.

We've got a very good relationship. We can talk to each other about everything so I know it's not lack of communication that's worrying me.
We spend most of our evenings together, we'll cuddle up on the sofa watching a film or bingeing on some sort of TV series.
But again I'm just not interested in having sex.
I've told him I am very tired (I'm again full of cold) but he just seems to get more and more frustrated whenever he asks for any sort of sexual thing.
I do understand he's frustrated and hurt because I'm not interested in sex at the moment. But it doesn't mean I don't love him.
I have told him this and asked him to understand and to just bare with me until I do feel like having sex again but I think it's falling on deaf ears.

I'm quite a confident person, I know my body has changed since having our daughter and it doesn't bother me that I've got the odd stretch mark, flabby belly and bigger bum. That's me now and I'm very happy with that. So again, I know it's not a body confidence thing.

He's told me he's "googled it" (he's a terrible person for googling things) and he's said that it's because of the pill I'm on that's making me like this. Considering I've been back on the same pill I was on before I fell pregnant for over 18 months I doubt that will be the issue.
He's also asked if I'm having an affair or at least interested in one, which hurt. I understand why he asked me but it still hurt me to be asked.

It's getting to the point now where it's half 4 in the morning and his hands are wandering all over me and it's making me feel very uncomfortable.
I've told him to stop, which he does straight away but then he's playing the silent game with me when we wake up.

I think I might pop to my doctors for some advice on how to handle this since it's getting silly now.

I don't know if I'm just being silly or rude in thinking that he just doesn't understand how tiring being a mum is. I can't just be turned on like a light switch.

I don't want to lose him and I don't want to force myself into having sex when I'm not wanting to.

Advice please❤️

Thank you❤️

March 06, 2020, 05:45:08 PM
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Ariane01


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May 31, 2020, 06:27:19 PM
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kocainviser



June 03, 2020, 09:06:48 AM
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Tony


I think there needs to be some compromise on both sides. Perhaps you should give him some form of hand relief As middle ground.

 

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